Rajbinder "Raj" Kalirai

Rajbinder "Raj" Kalirai welcomes people looking for help with strong emotions and life pressures. She is a BACP counsellor based in the United Kingdom with eight years of experience. Raj aims to make the first step easier by offering a calm, non-judgemental space where worries can be talked through.

Raj works with a wide range of concerns including stress, anxiety, relationship problems, trauma and abuse, anger, depression and addictions. She also supports people facing issues around self-esteem, grief, parenting and career changes. Her additional focus areas include attachment and relationship patterns, blended family matters, body image and codependency concerns.

Her approach draws on several practical methods. Raj uses Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to help people clarify values and take workable steps. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is used to spot unhelpful thinking and try small experiments. Emotionally-Focused Therapy and Attachment-Based ideas guide conversations about close relationships and how people connect with others.

Sessions are built around a client-centred attitude where the person leads the pace and topics. Raj aims to listen closely, reflect what she hears and suggest simple, doable strategies. She encourages clients to try skills between meetings and to review what is or is not helpful.

Raj speaks English, Hindi, Punjabi and Urdu, and she works with people across different countries. To begin, clients are invited to use the site sign-up to complete a short matching questionnaire and arrange sessions according to availability.

How these approaches translate to online counselling

Raj commonly uses Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to help people identify what matters to them and take small, meaningful steps even when emotions feel overwhelming. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy focuses on values and practical action rather than trying to remove difficult feelings immediately.

She also draws on Cognitive Behavioural Therapy to help clients notice patterns of thinking and try brief experiments to test new ways of responding. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is useful for stress, anxiety and anger because it breaks problems into smaller, workable pieces.

Finding the right style is a shared task. Raj will work with each person to decide which combination of approaches fits their goals and preferences. That decision is reviewed as therapy progresses so methods can be adjusted when needed.

If you are considering online sessions, check the available session options before booking so you know what is offered. Online work can make it easier to fit meetings into a busy week, reduce travel time and support shorter check-ins when needed. Some formats also suit lower bandwidth or non-camera conversations, so practical needs and day-to-day routines can shape how sessions are arranged.